"My Bestfriend is my boyfriend's Ex"

By Emily (name disguised) via E-mail.

"I'm having a relationship with my boyfriend now. Yesterday was our 4 month anniv.
I have a bestie, call her X. We are so close and share stories together but she never ever talk about her crush or her boyfriend. She always think that boys are jerk.
But yesterday, she told the truth. She was my boyfriend's ex and she tried to not talk about him because she afraid I will give up. Now that I know that, I feel really bad, cause the way she told me, she looked like she still has a feeling for him (although she always said she is trying to move on). What can I do? I love X but, I love my boyfriend since last year, What should i do?"


Ans:

Hey Emily :D

In this case, You need to talk to X and your boy. Why? Because, X give hm up to you because she knows you love him and she also know that they will  never getting back together. Yet, you are her best friend. Talk to her about her feeling, whether she still has a feeling for him or not, or if she says she is trying to move on, go support her, and try to talk less about your boy to prevent her from flashback.
Now, talk to your boy, why don't he told you that he is your best friend Ex? And the most important is, Is he still has a feeling too? Honesty is the best policy, right?
Talk about it very calm and very carefully. Cause it is very sensitive and also to prevent any fight or cold war.

Hope this advise work on you, Emily! :D

The struggling girl team <3